Anne
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posted on 04-27-2004 at 08:57 |
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How To Perform Cunnilingus
To be a truly great lover, you must be able to perform oral sex to your partner's liking. On women, this is known as cunnilingus, a rather technical term for something that thrills most women to their very core. Here are some basic tips, but every woman is different, so watch and learn what combinations of licks and kisses work best for her.
Here's How:
Get yourself ready. Make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed as you'll probably want to use your hands as well as your mouth on her. Shave your stubble—nothing kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts.
Consider bathing. If you're anxious about her taste or smell, suggest a romantic bath or shower together and then go down on her. You can also try a flavored lubricant or a dental dam (good for safe sex), which will mask her taste if you find it unpleasant (but try it first!).
Turn her on. A lot of women prefer to be pretty excited in order to enjoy cunnilingus. Take your time about it. Use your mouth all over her body—this will send her a message about what will follow. When she’s good and excited—her hips are thrusting and the moans pretty regular, head south.
Get comfortable. She can lie on her back, or sit back in a reclined position, with her knees bent and her legs spread. You can lie on your stomach with your head poised over her vulva, your arms hooked underneath her thighs.
Get the lay of the land. Take a good look at her genitals so you know what you’re doing. (Brush up on female anatomy first if need be). Your goal during cunnilingus is to stimulate her clitoris, but not at the exclusion of the rest of her genital anatomy. Use your fingers to spread her lips and take a good look at her clitoris, her labia, her mons, her vagina, her perineum and her anus.
Ease into it. A lot of women have very sensitive clits, so don’t attack her vulva as if it were a juicy ripe peach. Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum and lick up and around her clit and back down the other side.
Check the hood. Most women prefer to have their clitorises licked through the "clitoral hood." This is a fold of skin that covers the actual glans of the clitoris, which is extremely sensitive.
Clit strokes. In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. If you’re not sure, ask her to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes—circular, side-to-side, up-and-down. Don’t take it personally if she flinches—discovering what pleases is often a process of trial and error—just try something else.
Let her give you a hand. If you've ever seen her masturbate, you have some idea how she likes her clit to be touched. Ask her to show you now, or you can offer her your hand and ask her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours.
Use your mouth. Take her clit in your mouth and gently suck on it. Use your mouth to suck on or nibble her labia.
Insert your fingers or a toy into her vagina (optional). When she’s good and excited, add some lubricant to your fingers or toy and gently insert it into her vagina. Move them in and out using short but firm strokes. Put your mouth back on her clitoris and lick her while you penetrate her.
Don’t stop. Women like steady stimulation, so don’t stop unless you need to come up for air. You’ll see the signs when she’s getting ready to go over the top—her moans, her thighs pressing against your head, her body arching, her hands tightening on your head! When the orgasm washes over you, she’ll let you know when to stop.
Come again. If you’re up to the task, you might want to ask her if she wants more, as some women can move into another orgasm with steady stimulation. You can always try a vibrator or masturbation if your tongue is too tired.
Tips:
You can also incorporate the perineum and vaginal opening into your oral sex. Let your tongue travel down and pop in and out of the vagina occasionally.
She might prefer to work the dildo or vibrator inside her while you're licking. This allows you to concentrate, and her to get the rhythm she likes best.
If your mouth or tongue tires, give it a rest, but replace the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator (unless she wants a rest too).
It can take women longer to come than men, and many women are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in there for the long haul. She will be forever grateful if you do.
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