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1198freak
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posted on 08-25-2011 at 17:11 |
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Divorce after 9 years
My wife of 9 years wants a divorce. We have one daughter who is 8 years old. We have had issues in the marriage before and she has talked about moving out, but she always backed off at the last second. This time she really did it, she got an apartment for herself and is in the process of setting up gas and electricity service, getting our child in a new school, etc... She wants to stay friends with me for our daughter's sake, but also she says she still does care about me very much and doesn't want to hurt me. She says she wants me involved in her life and says maybe in the future she can see us getting involved again, not to be married but as a girlfriend/boyfriend type of thing. This is all confusing and I really do not know what to think about all this... Anyone been through anything like this?
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Sickofit
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posted on 09-26-2011 at 20:18 |
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Moving
I actually moved for a week then felt sorry for her so moved back. But sounds like her mind is made up and dropping you slowly. That's what I would have done. Told her that we can date and such later but I knew that wouldn't work we would drift apart. Id say give it a month if she's still not working together, move on. Apt lease is a year right?
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FinanceGuy
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posted on 09-30-2011 at 15:23 |
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Why?
There has to be a reason why she wants a divorce. People do grow apart so the reason doesn't always have to be a negative one. Knowing why she wants a divorce - the real reason not just whats easy to say - will help you make up your mind. If this is something that BOTH of you will commit to working on ad fixing then maybe the marriage can work. If not you're probably better off appart.
Whether you stay together or get divorced always remember the kids come before you and before your wife/ex wife. She needs to realize this as well. EVERYTHING that is communicated to the kids, said in front of the kids, or that the kids might hear needs to be positive about the other person regardless of how each of you feel.
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dmoonchild
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posted on 10-25-2011 at 17:01 |
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i want to move out
My husband and I have also been married for 9 yrs we have 2 young children 6 & 5. I blew my stack tonight. I wrote him a sexy note and he screamed at me "how dare you do that in front of the kids they can read now". He has become such a bore, he comes home from work, sits on hit chair ans waits for dinner. We have had multiple arguments about him not helping . I am disabled, and right now, my mother is dying in the hospital, he is blaming my attitude on that. I want out I hate him I never want to be with him again, He makes me sick.
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