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Andy
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posted on 06-08-2004 at 07:30 |
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Answers please?
My wife and I are very interested in the swinging lifestyle...however, our largest concern is STD's. There are things out there that you can't look at and say, oh, sorry, you have something...we can't do this. Even using condoms may not help for some items...esspecially if you like to touch and do oral things...can anyone give advice on how to overcome, or to better understand what we can do to feel better about this aspect before we try this?
We are both fit fairly attractive people that are looking for some good company, and possibly to add another level to our sex life...not that ours is suffering. We just want to get all of our questions answered first.
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Robert231a
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posted on 06-08-2004 at 07:34 |
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think that most couples have had to seriously consider the possiblilities of contracting an STD from swininging. "Getting over it" can be difficult, but sticking to safer sex and get to know your partners first should help ease the mind. Excluding intercourse and partaking in soft swing only may also be an option that you may like to consider.
Regardless of what you choose to do, there are some risks. You and your partner have to decide what risks you are willing to take. Each couple sets their boundaries and your boundaries may grow with time. Go with your instinct, if something doesn't seem right it probably isn't.
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Helena
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posted on 06-08-2004 at 07:38 |
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my opinion
Not to worry about the questions...you'll find that you have 42 questions by the time all is done and said. Maybe even 84!
Requesting a social meeting...quite the norm for many of us. Generally, after a bit of e-mail chat and/or phone chat, people will arrange to meet for a drink, coffee...that sort of thing. Personally, I would never agree to meet anyone for any reason other than a "get-to-know-you" type of situation and I've always made that perfectly clear prior to any meeting. Don't hesitate to do and insist upon whatever is most comfortable for you and your wife. Others are content to visit clubs and immediately start play action. These are all personal preferences.
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finelife
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posted on 06-08-2004 at 07:42 |
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Others have already basically given you the answers I would give. The only thing I really wanted to add is that you need to decide what overall is best for YOU and what YOU want, don't worry about what is normal or what others think. Set your rules and stick to them, you will eventually find people that can deal with whatever you have decided.
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